What is my best self?

I'm still processing much of what I heard from Adam Phillips in a fascinating talk at Notting Hill's The Tabernacle.
    Phillips' new book - Attention Seeking - has already gripped my own attention and I particularly love what he has to say about finding inspiration in literature.
    He quoted Camus' The Fall with a definition of charisma - "When people say yes before you've asked anything". He has a lot to say about James Baldwin, which will take me back to my bookshelves and some of the American literature I studied 35 years ago.
    I particularly like his use of Freud's version of the Sufi proverb: "Don't learn, listen."